Speaking at the first Obama Foundation Summit in Chicago on Wednesday, Michelle Obama voiced some damning criticisms of how society raises men.

The former first lady said that she feels men can be “entitled” and “self-righteous” because they are treated too kindly growing up, whereas girls are told to be perfect. A more direct reading of her comments shows she thinks men aren’t “raised” at all.

“It’s like the problem in the world today is we love our boys, and we raise our girls,” Obama said. “We raise them to be strong, and sometimes we take care not to hurt men — and I think we pay for that a little bit.”

“Y’all should get you some friends,” Obama joked. “And talk to each other, because that’s the other thing [women] do — we straighten each other out on some things, our girlfriends.”

She continued: “It’s powerful to have strong men, but what does that strength mean? You know, does it mean respect? Does it mean responsibility? Does it mean compassion?”

Obama went on to question if women protect men to the point they feel “entitled” and “self-righteous.”

“Are we protecting our men too much so they feel a little entitled and … self-righteous sometimes? But, that’s kind of on us too as women and mothers, as we nurture men and push girls to be perfect,” Obama said.

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